I am approximately 16 months into a no-sex, no-dating transformation challenge, and life has never been better. I always thought I would find happiness when I met the right woman and I now realize happiness can be found when we come home to ourselves.
After years of co-dependent relationships one after another, and after coming out of an extremely harsh and painful break up, I decided I needed to figure out how to live and be happy by myself. I desperately wanted to feel safe and I had finally learned that I needed to create this for myself, within myself.
I declared not to give any more energy to finding a partner for a minimum period of one year. I declared not to use any dating sites, not to have sex or date, and not to speak or chat with women online.
My history of dating was stark proof that I kept attracting the same type of relationship that was unhealthy and not serving my greater good. It became apparent I needed to break the circle and change the way I felt about myself before I attracted another partner into my life.
I had to do things differently than I had been all of my dating life.
I could no longer tap into someone else’s energy for my happiness. I no longer wanted to lose myself in a relationship with a woman. I no longer wanted to avoid learning how to truly love myself, which takes hard work and commitment, and I craved safety within myself.
Everything we seek we have within ourselves, and can access this whenever we want.
I came home to myself during the past 16 months.
I forgave myself and others and made peace with the past. I released all anger, shame and guilt that was bottled up inside of me and weighing me …read more
Source:: The Huffington Post – Canada Music