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DEAR CAROLYN: I’ve been dating “Z” off-and-on for 2½ years. He is 39 and never had a serious relationship before; I’m 33 and have been in love once and had one other long-term relationship that ended in a healthy way.
Z and I love each other but he has a hard time communicating with me about his feelings for me, or making tangible plans for our future. He does give me a hard time most of the time and has broken up with me multiple times for no clear reason, which has been difficult for me, needless to say.
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We recently spent six months apart due to his saying he was “sorry” he was “not the one for me.”
We came back together a few months ago and were thrilled to realize our mutual love. But a recent snag has brought up this gnawing question: If I love him, shouldn’t I accept him for who he is and love him unconditionally? Or …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Lifestyle