Last month, I was forced to learn how to heal after a friend dies.
I learned that you should surround yourself with support, but also take time to be alone.
When it comes to social media, you may find posts comforting or pain-inducing.
You should also remember that everyone processes loss differently, and not let that impact your journey to healing.
In July, my world was turned upside down when my friend Gerald was killed at the hands of a drunk driver.
At the time of his death, Gerald was only 27 years old. And a healthy 27 years old at that. He wasn’t afflicted with an illness that should have cut his life short. He didn’t dabble with the types of drugs that are known for taking the lives of young people. His death wasn’t inevitable, which is a scary thought.
And an even scarier one — it could have easily happened to me or any of our friends.
I thought about the many times in the weeks following Gerald’s death. It’s so easy for someone to be in the wrong place at the wrong time, and to die as a result. When you realize your life can be cut short at any moment, you start to evaluate your life. You analyze every decision you’ve ever made, and everything left on your bucket list.
For some people, that serves as a motivation to change. While I felt that desire, I also felt the need to compare the quality and impact of my life to Gerald’s. And in realize just how short I fell in comparison, I started to wonder why God hadn’t taken me instead — in some cases, begged for it if it meant he could come back.
Because the truth was Gerald was a special person. Everything about him …read more
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