Polyamory is when couples allow each other to have multiple romantic partners outside their primary relationship.
There are several different approaches, such as triads which consist of three people.
Sometimes couples try out polyamory naively, especially when a straight couple wants to find another bisexual woman to join them.
This is called “unicorn hunting,” and it’s something of a cliché in the poly community.
To some people, the idea of polyamory — the term describing having more than one romantic partner — is exciting.
In polyamorous relationships, a couple decides they will give each other the freedom to meet, flirt, and hook up with other people. Sometimes they may invite another person into the relationship permanently, in what’s known as a triad.
But it’s not as simple as finding a third person you both fancy. In fact, according to Dr Elisabeth Sheff, expert witness, speaker, and coach of polyamory and author of “The Polyamorists Next Door,” straight couples often come into the polyamorous community expecting to find a bi woman to join them. This, she said, is called “unicorn hunting.”
Sheff’s former husband introduced her to the idea of polyamory with exactly this intention. He wanted another woman to sleep with, but he didn’t particularly want her to be able to meet other men. Apparently in the poly community, this is quite a cliché.
“She’s known as ‘the unicorn’ because she’s so rare, and almost mythical,” Sheff told Business Insider. “He thought he was so edgy and out there, and we could have a wife the two of us together.
“As it turns out, it’s every straight boy’s fantasy. It doesn’t fly well in the poly community. And when he didn’t get what he wanted, he had a tantrum, and didn’t want to do it anymore.”
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Source:: Business Insider