Long-distance relationships aren’t for everyone, writes author Steven John, who spent the first three years of his relationship with his now-wife living in a different state.
He notes that long-distance relationships aren’t for everyone, but there are ways to make things run more smoothly.
Communication and planning for a future where you’ll be physically together are key.
My wife and I never spent more than two weeks of uninterrupted time together before we got married.
We met when I was visiting LA on a break from college and she had recently moved to the area. She and I spent every possible moment together until I had to head back to school on the East Coast and we officially began a long-distance relationship.
As months turned into years, we constantly traveled back and forth between coasts, cities, and countries to see each other. Then we got married and now we’re expecting our second kid!
The point is that for the first three and some years of what has now been a 16-year relationship, we lived far apart, and often quite far at that, but we made it work.
Here’s how we did it:
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We put an emphasis on good communication
While living apart, in any given week my then-girlfriend (now wife) and I spent a lot of time talking on the phone. This involved planned calls during which we knew we would both be available and distraction free as well as quick calls to ask a little question, tell a stupid joke, or just say something sweet.
In any relationship, communication is key. In a long-distance relationship especially, all you and your partner have when it comes to communicating are your actual words. I recommend only saying what you really mean and …read more
Source:: Business Insider