Jersey Griggs is a writer specializing in lifestyle topics, who lives on the coast of Maine with her husband and their rescue dog.
When Griggs was growing up, her mother, a clinical psychologist, would use a conflict-resolution technique called mirroring to make her children feel heard.
Mirroring is the act of mimicking those around us, establishing a rapport between the people communicating.
When Griggs and her husband found themselves in a silly argument, she suggested mirroring — and it allowed them to finally understand each other.
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Growing up, I didn’t always take my mother’s advice. But since my mom also happened to be Martha Lauber, a clinical psychologist in private practice on Chicago’s North Shore, she invariably had advice to give.
Which is exactly how mirroring, a technique often employed by therapists, came into my life. During my turbulent teenage years, mirroring was a well-practiced conflict-resolution method in our household.
Also known as limbic synchrony, mirroring is the act of mimicking those around us. An ingrained social behavior that typically yields positive results, mirroring can help to establish a rapport between humans, with research finding that it improves interpersonal skills in children.
When Harville Hendrix began marketing mirroring as a beneficial technique for dialoguing couples, it became more utilized by therapists. In his book “The Couples Companion: Meditations and Exercises for Getting the Love You Want,” Hendrix writes, “Mirroring is simply a matter of carefully repeating back what was said for verification, and repeating the process until we get it right.”
With two teenage daughters and many surly mornings, my mother wisely employed mirroring as a way to make her children feel heard. During a time in my life when I often felt misunderstood, listening to my mother reflect my feelings helped to defuse my anger. And …read more
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